Either keep the burden yourself or give it up entirely
 
The great mistake you make is that you lift the burden from your head, but instead of placing it on the head of the One who willingly accepts it with all responsibility, you keep it hanging over you in the air, hesitating to give it lest you lose something valuable! Thus you neither bear the burden, nor allow it to rest on the head of the One who wants it to be transferred – namely Baba. You keep it hanging between the two, and place both under suspense, thereby aggravating your suffering. Either keep it yourself or give it up entirely.
www.lordmeher.org, p 2457